Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

How To Develop A Winning Attitude


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What does it take today to be successful?

In order to assess the above question, it is vital to first define what "success" is and to identify what winning people have in common. One may assume that anyone reading this article wants to be successful. However! only 5% of people will ever achieve their potential, and 95% of people will never really be successful. By definition then, success is the realization of a worthy deal.

We also need to take into account that success is different for everyone. Whatever your definition of success may be, there are five characteristics that you must have in common with other successful people in order to achieve true success.

Goals are the single most important factor in achieving success. Without a sensible goal, how will you ever know when you have reached your success level. All successful people set goals. All goals must be sensible, short term, calculable and obtainable within the bounds of your own perception. As time passes, your goals can always be adjusted upward to reach your ultimate goal of success. However, if your initial goal is to be worth R1,000,000 by the year end and you are currently only worth R100,000 with an annual income of R50,000 a year and this is November, you most likely will never be able to reach it and therefore, it is unrealistic. Biting off a job in small portions makes the ultimate achievement of the entire task seem more straightforward and convenient. All successful people continually set goals, re-evaluate their goals and scale them upward toward even greater accomplishments.

A positive attitude is the second factor that successful people have in common. I have never met a truly successful person who I would consider a "self made" success that did not have a positive attitude. These people relate to the world on a positive basis. They always look for the "can do" not the "can not do" side of every situation. "If you think you can or if you think you can't, you're right." All successful people truly believe not only in themselves, but in the reality of their goals. A positive attitude is contagious and when it is sincere, the people with whom you come in contact will relate to you and your activities with a vitality and positive attitude that causes a winning, successful environment.

The truth is always the greatest to deal with for more than a few reasons, not the slightest significant of which is that it is at all times the easiest to keep in mind. If you are going to be successful, you will not have time, energy and capability to remember untruths, or lies that you have told people. This consumes precious energy and detracts from the power needed to run a successful life. The truth is easy to remember and generally, in the long term, easier to deal with. True winners are always prepared to face the truth in situations, and handle things as they deal with them on a timely basis and then proceed to get on with the business of running a successful, prosperous life. Never having to back track to cover up problem areas.

Research and Development in contemporary times have become exceedingly imperative to all major corporations. This is where all new products and ideas develop. Successful individuals have at all times understood this principal on a personal level and they continually endeavor to develop their own abilities through such methods as official educational systems, seminars, reading books, listening to ideas and the thoughts of others in any way that presents itself to them. Successful people sincerely believe they can improve themselves and constantly strive to seek techniques and means that will assist them to achieve this goal. They also know that there is a price to pay for this success although the return on an investment is at times great and at times small.

"Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is the probable reason why so few engage in it." -Henry Ford

Man's aptitude over all other creatures on this Earth is the aptitude to think. All successful people use this faculty to improve their lives and control their own destiny. Only you can take the first step toward the unleashing of the power within your own mind. The power is overwhelming and at times can be frightening. However, man has abilities of the mind that many people cannot or would not believe. Anthony Robbins has recently written a book entitled "Unlimited Power" which explains in simple terms the theories of Neuro Linguistic Programming, the power of the mind and how to gain control and use it. NLP was originally developed by John Grinder and Richard Bandler as a communication system using the central nervous system. Through this system Mr. Robbins has put forth a complete outline on how to unleash your "performance power" and achieve goals that before you probably felt were impossible.

The initial step in using your true mental abilities, is understanding what Mr. Robbins refers to as the seven triggering mechanisms that is sure success.

1. Passion - All truly successful people such as Lee Iacocca have a driving force within them that sets them apart from others. A desire, an energy that gives them the fuel to reach their true potential. This force is a part of them 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It never subsides. Their total existence is sustained for the fulfillment of their goals. The passion within this individual to achieve has been so deeply implanted, that their mental power is driven by this force and will not let them do anything other than achieve.

2. Belief - "They can because they think they can"-Virgil. You will only make $100,000 this year if you first believe you can. If you do not believe you can you are telling yourself you want it, but it is truly not obtainable. The truth of life is that man's limits are self imposed by what the mind is given to believe. If you expand your belief of your own abilities, you will also expand your true realm of accomplishment. A man of whom all are aware, lived his life with adversity, but he constantly believed he could achieve.

With all the adversity that faced him, President Abraham Lincoln had no reason to continually try other than the fact that he believed it was his destiny and measure of success to accomplish this task.

"Man is what he believes" -Anton Checkhov

3. Strategy - A strategy is your game plan of life. The road map you will use to accomplish your goals, ambitions and desires. Just to believe you can earn $100,000 a year is not enough, you must design a strategy that gives your life direction and navigates you toward success. The key to strategy is to design a proper strategy to achieve your success without the detours of life, to find the shortest distance between two points.

4. Clarity of Values - Man must first determine which things in life are most valuable to him. He must determine his feeling about such things as patriotism, pride, love, freedom, excellence, ownership and tolerance. These are values in society, the moral, ethical and fundamental judgements that we, as individuals, deem important. Without a clear system of values for ourselves, it is impossible to believe in something with a passion that has no value to us. Once we have established our individual value system we are then able to determine how we can achieve success based on our priority of values. What must we five up in one hand to accomplish what we desire on the other. Without a value system we can never move forward for we may be trading without increasing our potential for success.

5. Energy - Without the physical vitality to take action, nothing would ever come of our system to this point. The passion could build, our belief of accomplishment could be overwhelming, we could have the best strategy or map to achieve the ultimate value for our own life, but if not for taking the first step, nothing could ever be accomplished. Great success cannot be separated from physical, spiritual and mental energy that allows us, compels us, to accomplish the most with what we have to work with. Physical energy comes from the strength of the body itself fueled by our intake of nourishment. It is therefore important that we fuel our engine with premium fuel (good eating habits), not low grade regular (junk food). Our spiritual and intellectual energy evolves from our environment and it is therefore important that we assess our own personal environment to maximize the energy that we can obtain.

6. Bonding Power - We have all known people that have exhibited the ability to get along with anyone and everyone. The ability to be a chameleon is truly the ability to connect with and bond with others. The ability to build rapport. Being able to deal with others as Mr. Robbins says "To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others." To be able to understand the...

7. Mastery of Communication - To take charge and run your own mind. To learn the techniques of NLP and no longer allow our mind to run our lives, but rather take charge of our own mental abilities and cause them to work for our own accomplishment of success.

At the end of the day, "There is only one Success - to be able to spend your life in your own way." - Christopher Morley

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