Getting your Toddler to Behave is Easy, Just Learn the Secrets

To a toddler, the word no is a negative word, which often falls on deaf ears. As soon as is it used the child shuts down does not listen and just feels like they are not getting what they want. Their needs are suddenly not met, you are the mean parent and a tantrum ensues. The tantrum is just a reaction, which over time as the child grows will be expressed differently.

Imaging if there was a secret to get your toddler to do what you want? Believe it or not there is!

When we communicate the brain interprets the information and we form a conclusion to what is said. The reality we have and the reality the other person has can sometimes be quite different. This in itself is not a problem, but understanding each other can make all the difference to a positive outcome especially when dealing with an upset toddler.

There is a behavior technique that teaches people how to adopt new behaviors called Neuro-Linguistic Programming, commonly abbreviated to NLP. You may wonder, how does this relate to a crabby toddler who want do what you want and has tantrums all the time? Well NLP assists in ascertaining how people function. It looks at the relationship between how one thinks and communicates and the patterns of behavior and emotion. Essentially it helps understand what is going on inside of yourself and others. This helps you in understanding yourself and your toddler.

NLP can assist in improving your communications skills and interpersonal skills. Most importantly, it can assist you in getting what you want. This may sound negative or coercive, but if you want your toddler to do something, this is not negative. It might be as simple as getting them to have a bath without a tantrum, or get dressed without complaint. NLP can assist you get your toddler to cooperate without a screaming match.

Have you ever thought about what you say to your child, the words you use and what affect they had? For example, if you want your child to get into the bath, how do you say it, what does the child hear? Do they just hear the word bath and go inter hysterics? Sometimes it is not what you have said but the words you have chosen to deliver your message. Next time instead of saying get in the bath or do you want a bath, ask the question, after the bath, do you want which pyjamas would you like to wear? And see what the toddlers reaction is.

The example above is actually something called a presupposition. These are very powerful tools, which can be used when dealing with anyone, it is not just limited to toddlers or children. I know I use them with my 6 year old and they extremely effective. A presupposition is actually a statement or a question that assumes something is true. It is a powerful language tool that helps break past resistance.

With the right information and techniques, you can actually build up a powerful set of skills to positively influence your toddler or childs behavior and learn the secret to get the sort of behavior you want, to get them to comply with your requests more often, and reduce the occurrence of fights and screaming matches.